Mistakes that we must avoid when we are in a disagreement.
Attacking the partner's character
Focusing on the partner's behavior instead of the issue at hand can trigger the partner and distract from the problem at hand during communication.
Bringing up past issues
Digging up old graves can distract from the current issue and trigger reactions, while keeping a score of mistakes can be toxic in relationships.
Making exaggerated accusations
Using exaggerated accusations can exacerbate a conflict, so it's crucial to carefully consider the tone and language used when making accusations about the partner.
Refusing to listen
In a fight, a major mistake is not listening, but actively listening to the partner's perspective to find a solution.
Stonewalling
The habit of withdrawing from an argument and not listening to the partner is a toxic way to punish them and make them feel bad about bringing up the issue.